QUESTION? How do you want your problem resolved? Then ask God for it. Ask Him to heal the hurt. Ask Him to make you a better person for what you are going through. HELPING OTHERS. God specializes in turning pain and hurt to our ultimate benefit. People who have lived through times of heartache and pain are often best suited to help others. Consider that possibility! YOU HAVE HOMEWORK! Read the following verses in your Bible. They have words of comfort for you at this time. Look them up in the Blue Letter Bible. Psalm 9:9 Psalm 55:22 Psalm 56:3-4 Psalm 121 Zephaniah 3:17-20 Habakkuk 3:17-19 Deut. 33:27 Acts 3:1-10 Mark 10:46-52 Hebrews 13:5 2 Cor. 1:3-7 2 Cor 3:4-6 copyright 2000 - 2008 This material represents our best effort at being helpful within the constraints of this format. Other information and additional counseling should be considered before crucial decisions are made. See "CHOOSING A COUNSELOR." |
There is no reason to explain the list above in detail. You know what's hurting you whether it's on the list or not. WHAT YOU WANT is some constructive advice that will point you toward the healing your broken heart so desires. ADVICE Forgiveness. The first step in overcoming your pain is also the hardest. Whoever is to blame for your hurt (even if it's you) must be forgiven -- no matter what that person has done! The reason is clear. It is not in your best interest to hold a grudge or harbor animosity. For one thing it keeps the problem on your mind. Your wounds are constantly reopened and your recovery is blocked. Plus it's bad for your health. Read the pamphlet entitled The Meaning of Life if you haven't already done so. It describes a relationship with God that can make the idea of forgiveness much easier to consider. Get to know Jesus. To know Jesus Christ as your Savior and Lord is to have divine help with life's problems. 1 Peter 5:7 states, "Throw all your troubles on Him for He cares for you." That's right. God wants you to give your hurt to Him! So why not let Him have it? Do what an old church song says and "Take your burdens to the Lord and leave them there." Prayer. Why not tell God in a prayer that you are giving up your hurt? Thank Him for taking it. Then leave it in His care. After all, a proper relationship to God involves trusting Him with all that comes your way. Picture your life as a car -- with just one steering wheel. Who will drive? Will it be you or God? Who do you trust? Don't internalize your pain. That means sharing your situation with other members of the family of God. After all, God uses people to help people. Don't hold it all inside when God already has people set aside to shoulder part of your load. If you will simply speak up in the right place, you will find these helpers. A support group. The people who jump in to help you with your load are your support group. Older, more mature Christians are gifted by God just for the purpose of helping the hurting. The Apostle Paul says in Galatians 6:2 to "Carry one another's burdens...." Consider joining or attending a local Bible preaching church. It is the right place to find those people described above. |
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Hurting Hearts by Duron Davis |
Note to the reader: The pamphlet titled, "The Meaning of Life" should be read before you look at this topic. It contains foundational material that will help you understand this page better. It takes just a few minutes to read. When you are finished, come back here. |
THE HUMAN SPIRIT is both tough and fragile. Sometimes the greatest obstacles are overcome and yet, there are so many ways to still be hurt. You are to be applauded for choosing this pamphlet. You are doing something about the problem. It is a good first step in what can be a healing process for your hurting heart. The source of your heartache is most likely on the list below. |
The Things That Hurt Us Most 1. Betrayal 6. Our appearance 2. Rejection 7. Guilt and shame 3. Grief 8. Loneliness 4. Abuse 9. Unemployment 5. Failure |
There is no reason to explain the list above in detail. You know what's hurting you whether it's on the list or not. WHAT YOU WANT is some constructive advice that will point you toward the healing your broken heart so desires. ADVICE Forgiveness. The first step in overcoming your pain is also the hardest. Whoever is to blame for your hurt (even if it's you) must be forgiven -- no matter what that person has done! The reason is clear. It is not in your best interest to hold a grudge or harbor animosity. For one thing it keeps the problem on your mind. Your wounds are constantly reopened and your recovery is blocked. Plus it's bad for your health. Read the pamphlet entitled The Meaning of Life if you haven't already done so. It describes a relationship with God that can make the idea of forgiveness much easier to consider. Get to know Jesus. To know Jesus Christ as your Savior and Lord is to have divine help with life's problems. 1 Peter 5:7 states, "Throw all your troubles on Him for He cares for you." That's right. God wants you to give your hurt to Him! So why not let Him have it? Do what an old church song says and "Take your burdens to the Lord and leave them there." Prayer. Why not tell God in a prayer that you are giving up your hurt? Thank Him for taking it. Then leave it in His care. After all, a proper relationship to God involves trusting Him with all that comes your way. Picture your life as a car -- with just one steering wheel. Who will drive? Will it be you or God? Who do you trust? Don't internalize your pain. That means sharing your situation with other members of the family of God. After all, God uses people to help people. Don't hold it all inside when God already has people set aside to shoulder part of your load. If you will simply speak up in the right place, you will find these helpers. A support group. The people who jump in to help you with your load are your support group. Older, more mature Christians are gifted by God just for the purpose of helping the hurting. The Apostle Paul says in Galatians 6:2 to "Carry one another's burdens...." Consider joining or attending a local Bible preaching church. It is the right place to find those people described above. |
A New Attitude When I was in college, I had a professor who would constantly (and loudly) say, "Well, Praise God anyway!" I didn't understand what that really meant until I experienced some periods of pain and suffering in my own life. Isaiah expressed the same idea by saying that we should put on "a garment of praise instead of a spirit of despair." Isaiah 61:3 A Matter of Trust For a Christian, all of life's experiences are ultimately for our good. So it's a matter of trust. No matter how it seems, God is working in His children's best interest. He uses the heartache Satan means to hurt us with, to mold us for good purposes. The Apostle Paul had an incredible amount of bad things happen to him but he correctly observed, "Indeed, in our hearts we felt the sentence of death, but this happened that we might not rely on ourselves but on God." 2 Corinthians 1:9 |
More Advice Praising God. Follow the pattern of praising God even as you hurt. It works. When Jonah first begin praising God, he was still inside the whale. All of a sudden, he was on dry land. Paul and Silas began praising God in jail and an earthquake shook open the jailhouse doors. Prayer. Don't overlook the power of prayer to change your situation and to mend your broken heart. Matthew 21:22 says, "And in all things, whatsoever you shall ask in prayer, believing, you shall receive." |
Scientists Look at Prayer A recent scientific study took people with identical illnesses and split them into two groups. Both groups were given the identical medicines but one group also received prayer. The results astonished the scientists. Those who were the objects of prayer did much better. The truth is prayer was changing things long before science took an interest. |
QUESTION? How do you want your problem resolved? Then ask God for it. Ask Him to heal the hurt. Ask Him to make you a better person for what you are going through. HELPING OTHERS. God specializes in turning pain and hurt to our ultimate benefit. People who have lived through times of heartache and pain are often best suited to help others. Consider that possibility! YOU HAVE HOMEWORK! Read the following verses in your Bible. They have words of comfort for you at this time. Look them up in the Blue Letter Bible. Psalm 9:9 Psalm 55:22 Psalm 56:3-4 Psalm 121 Zephaniah 3:17-20 Habakkuk 3:17-19 Deut. 33:27 Acts 3:1-10 Mark 10:46-52 Hebrews 13:5 2 Cor. 1:3-7 2 Cor 3:4-6 copyright 2000 - 2008 This material represents our best effort at being helpful within the constraints of this format. Other information and additional counseling should be considered before crucial decisions are made. See "CHOOSING A COUNSELOR." |
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